“I think a lot about what makes a strong female character. You know, movies and TV shows, these things have influence, my own website. So I think the question of “What makes a strong female character?”, often goes misinterpreted. And instead we get these two-dimensional superwomen, who maybe have one quality that’s played up a lot. Like, you know, a Catwoman type, or she plays her sexuality up a lot and it’s seen as power. But they’re not strong characters who happen to be female, they’re completely flat and they’re basically cardboard characters. The problem with this is that then people expect women to be that easy to understand, and women are mad at themselves for not being that simple. When in actuality, women are complicated. Women are multifaceted. Not because women are crazy, but because people are crazy. And women happen to be people!”
Perhaps you know this about me: When Harry Met Sally might be my favorite movie of all time. Or at least in the running the longest. I know all the lines. Like, every line. I could recite them for you now (but I won’t).
So this brilliant film, this scene… Does this work in real life like it does in romantic comedies? Barging in where you don’t really belong, professing your love, and then you get the girl? Is that how it works? Or only if you have a very nice Nora Ephron penning your experiences and writing it up so that all your faults ultimately lead you exactly where you want to be.
“And I love that you are the last person I want to talk to before I go to sleep at night.”
Do they just look at you like you’re totally crazy and embarrassing or does it work out like you hoped it would? Does this ever really happen?
“You have you pick the places you don’t walk away from.” -Joan Didion
And maybe you have to pick everything you don’t walk away from. Maybe you have to make that choice every.single.day. Every second you have to choose not to run away. Choose to stay. Choose to be present. Choose to make things better than they are. Choose to try. Choose to not give up.
Thinking about what it means to give up and leave and let someone down and make decisions that affect more than just you. And what it means to stand and to fight. I don’t think I’ve done that enough in my life. And I think that’s going to have to change now. Choose something rather than choosing nothing.
I first heard this song at the beginning of February. (from this blog: http://www.fuelfriendsblog.com/2013/01/12/my-heart-is-wild-and-my-bones-are-steam/) Upon first listens I thought it was beautiful, sure, but now I can’t get if off repeat. Kill me right in the heart, why don’t you.